How You Take a Break Is Part of How You Lead
The Hidden Leadership Signal in How You Switch Off
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You’re heading off for a break soon. At least, that’s what the calendar says.
But in reality? You’re racing to fit three weeks of decisions into four days, trying to be useful to everyone right up to the last minute. There's a half-written handover doc in your drafts. Your meetings are full of urgency. Your thinking is scattered. And somewhere underneath it all, there's a voice reminding you that you’re supposed to be looking forward to this.
The truth is, many senior leaders don’t ease into rest - they crash, head spinning, into it. Because the pressure before a break isn’t just workload. It’s invisible leadership pressure.
The pressure to prove you’re on top of everything before you go.
The pressure to leave things in perfect shape for your team.
The pressure to switch off fast and return fresh without missing a beat.
The pressure to not visibly need rest, while also maximising every moment of it.
No wonder most people end up exhausted before the break begins.
And yet, this pattern goes largely unchallenged in many leadership cultures. In fact, it’s quietly rewarded. There’s a badge of honour in “just squeezing that in before I go” or “logging in just to keep an eye on things.”
High-performing leaders often carry an unconscious script that says: If I don’t push hard now, I’ll lose momentum. If I’m not present, things might stall. If I slow down, people might think I don’t care.
But here’s what’s easy to forget at the top: how you approach your time off becomes a blueprint for others.
You’re not just managing your own energy, you’re setting norms for the business. And in fast-growth, high-autonomy cultures, that matters more than you might think. Your team won’t do what you tell them to. They’ll do what they see you doing. So if you treat recovery like a luxury instead of a leadership responsibility, don’t be surprised when others do too, and your culture begins to fray at the edges.
This isn’t about never checking your inbox. It’s about owning the choices you make. Rest doesn’t have to mean complete disconnection. But it does require conscious boundaries and role-modelling the kind of leadership energy you want others to replicate.
Because leadership isn’t just about your presence - it is about what you leave behind when you’re not in the room.
And the way you transition in and out of rest is part of that legacy. Do you hand things over well, with clarity and trust? Or do you cling to control, disguised as diligence? Do you return with perspective and focus, or with the same urgency you left with?
Leaders often say they want to build sustainable, resilient, energised teams. But very few stop to examine their own relationship with recovery.
If you’re heading into a break - or just returning from one - this is your opportunity to lead differently. Not perfectly. But intentionally.
So pause for a moment as you read this; to take stock, reset your approach, and shift your leadership patterns around rest and renewal.
Self: How you approach a break says more about your leadership than you think. Most leaders have a default mode when it comes to holidays - over-prepping, under-preparing, clocking out abruptly, or never quite switching off at all. The pattern usually reflects deeper beliefs about control, trust, and identity.
What does your usual pre-holiday behaviour reveal about how you see your role?
What story do you tell yourself about what will happen if you're not around?
What version of yourself would you like to see showing up?
Team: What you model becomes permission - or pressure - for everyone else. In fact, how you prepare to step away and how you re-enter shapes your team’s behaviour, their stress levels, and their sense of what’s expected in your culture.
What impact does your approach to time off have on your team, whether spoken or unspoken?
What would it look like to role model healthy boundaries, without compromising your high standards?
What patterns might your team be mirroring back to you - and what does that tell you about your influence?
System: Rest doesn’t exist in a vacuum - it reflects your culture, your rituals, and your priorities. The way breaks are handled in your business reveals a lot about how you lead and what you implicitly value.
What does your organisation’s rhythm of work and rest say about its operating system?
What would need to shift to make recovery a shared, strategic habit - not just an individual effort?
What small but visible leadership act could help reset the rhythm of rest in your culture?
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